We spend so much of life trying to think our way to the right answer. Love is where that approach comes undone.

“Love is big; love can hold anger, love can even hold hatred. It’s about the intention of what you want it to do.”
― Alice Walker
Lincoln Stoller, PhD, 2026. This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivatives 4.0 International license (CC BY-NC-ND 4.0) www.mindstrengthbalance.com
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Love refuses to behave the way logic says it should. It’s not love in particular, it’s any aspect of behavior that reaches across thought, feeling, memory, training, and habit. Whenever you have compulsion mixed with aspiration, need, and intention, reason is a poor tool. It’s not because these things are unreasonable, it’s because there are too many reasons.

Maybe love was never a problem to solve, but a capacity to grow. We explore the idea that learning to love ourselves changes how we love everyone else, and why the questions that have no clean answer are often the most rewarding to explore.

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