A World of Therapies

You can have what you need.

The therapist delivers something to you that you don’t have, ensures you have it, and then becomes unnecessary. The coach helps improve your routine. Their role ends naturally as your path becomes clear.

As a therapist, I provide the tools to clarify your path and, in so doing, turn therapy into coaching.

Your problems are guides.

Your difficulties reflect the strengths you need. There is something valuable to be learned in every problem.

I teach, guide, and protect. I follow your directions. I have many resources but you are ultimately the brains behind the operation.

Look beyond what’s normal. Struggle is a door to opportunity. Your change will also benefit many others. Make that choice.

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Preparation is the odd combination of seeing new goals and recognizing old baggage. Reaching for novelty while letting go of convention puts you in a compromised state of mind. This may be where you are stuck.

Therapy is learning but learning is not what you’ve been taught. Learning is error and exploration driven by courage, curiosity, need, and inspiration. You may feel unsuccessful but you are never wrong.

Putting things back together is just as important as discovering how to change. We spend as much time settling your new mind as finding your new methods. It’s not enough to be willing, you must be able.

Making Change

Many paths with a common goal.

We are creatures of habit. We adopt habits to make life easier because we can’t think through every situation anew. Our whole life is based on habits of perception, thought, action, and association. These grow together like a jigsaw puzzle, or like ivy growing on a trellis. It becomes difficult to change one thing without changing all the others.

If you’re looking for change, be open to making change broadly. The one thing that prevents improvement is attachment to those things you feel protect and reward you. These are the thoughts, recreations, and people you depend on. All of these relationships exert a force to keep you from changing. Your change might threaten everything around you. Be committed to a greater you.

Change requires courage. You are not heading toward what’s familiar and success is not assured. Learning involves making mistakes, cracking the shell, and seeing anew. These are just the things our habits were designed to prevent.

Change involves retraining, and the most important mechanisms are your mind, body, spirit, and the way your brain works. Reason, exercise, emotion, relationship, environment, inspiration, focus, attention, and basic executive function are all things that you can change. When you change for the better, all that you’re connected to will also change for the better.

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Psychotherapy

Common Issues:

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