You are of two minds even before you’ve had a thought; one is intellectual, the other emotional.

We are all multiple personalities, in a sense, and to be healthy mentally, I think, learning what those multiple personalities are and inviting them in your life is really important.”
Sally Field, actress and trauma survivor

Disconnection between thoughts and feelings lies at the root of many people’s inability to act or change. They’ll claim to know what needs to be done, yet they’ll want something else. As a result they take no action, excuse themselves, and argue they’re doing the right thing…

The pathological people I know, which is pretty much everyone, distort some aspect of their lives. The distortion misinterpret others and leads them to false conclusions. Their actions are not effective, they are frustrated, and their relationships and those involved in their relationships suffer.

I see wisdom as the opposite of pathology, not sanity. Wisdom is sanity with insight. This comes with the appreciation of deeper truths and greater honesty. It’s both intellectual and emotional, neither one alone is enough.

Disconnection

When Presentation Conflicts With Reality

Honesty of Facts and Honesty of Feelings

Consensus in Communication

Letting Emotions Guide You

Honesty and Disclosure

Uncertainty is a Secure Foundation


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