The Delusion of Personality / Game of Intellect / Disrespect of Emotions / Neurology / Autonomy / Negative Affect / Positive Affect / Positive Maintenance / What You Know and What You Are/ Acquaintance and Discovery / Emotion as a Whole Being / Intellect and Emotion / Strength and Weakness / Trust and Distrust / Light and Dark / Good and Bad Behavior / Positive and Negative / Love and Death
Any normal personality feels like it’s a singular thing. In spite of changes in mood, attitude, memory, emotions, and experience, we are always ready to own, explain, or excuse as temporary our varied states. The resolutions we make in one frame of mind do not convince us when we’re in another. Our contrary behaviors reflect our unreconciled states.
We all speak with one voice and perform with one body. It is natural and necessary to assign to each of us one mind. But we do not really have one mind; we alternate among several in a way that’s similar to how we change our clothes.
No one would think you were a different person when you dress differently, nor does anyone want to believe you’re different because you change your mind. Our notions of sanity, responsibility, and our rules of behavior are based on our being present and responsible for ourselves.
The stability of our relationships depends on the freedom we’re allowed for growth and change. Regardless of how unchanging we feel ourselves to be, everything changes, and we change too.
The ego is a constellation of personalities moving in and out of the spotlight. We become adept as spokespeople for the voices that speak through us, but we do not see from a single point of view. Some aspects of our individual personalities are in conflict, yet, as flagrant as they might be, we don’t see these contradictions.
You can get to know your states. You can allow them to express themselves as fully different people, but you’ll need to create a supportive environment. In trance, under hypnosis, in illness, or under duress, we can encounter our multiplicity. While malleable to some extent, some of these experiences change us permanently.
The incommensurate personalities of the members of our families reflect an attempt at collecting complementary attitudes. Not only is life a stage, but so are families and our minds. We internalize our families into parts of ourselves, and even though we each speak with one voice, we speak from many minds.